Should a single man have an affair with a married woman?

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You are a single man . . .

Should You Have An Affair With a Married Woman?

You are tired of being alone; you want to feel loved; you are sexually frustrated. She is available, so why not? After all if her husband were fulfilling her needs, she wouldn't be interested in you. Right? Wrong!!!! Women have affairs for many reason! When she discovers how much you have to offer, she will leave her husband for you! Right? Wrong!!! As unbelievable as it seems, other men are just as good in bed as you are! And if she should agree to marry you, when the newness wears off, who will be your replacement? It could be anyone who is new and different--anyone who offers the sexual high that comes with a new relationship.

In most cases, married women do not marry their young (or old) lovers, even when true love is involved. Why are men so gullible? So susceptible? Because without the love of a soul mate, there is an emotional, physical, and spiritual void in our lives that cries out for fulfillment. We can try to fill this void with busy work days, drugs, alcohol, food, pets, and even close friends but, in most cases, this is not enough. God did not create man to be alone; He gave him a companion. Men and women together; that is His intention.

Becoming involved with a woman who is married may give you some sexual thrills, but it will be a fruitless relationship in terms of your future. (And don't joke about it being the wife of your boss.) Ask yourself if you would want to have this woman cheating on you? If her husband mistreats her, she should leave him; but, remember, that you are only hearing her side of the story . . . and there are always two sides. She is usually on her best behavior with you but what is her behavior toward the man she promised to love and cherish? And what happens if you truly fall in love with her and she with you? Would she ever make the break or would you always be on the outside looking in as you wait for the evasive "someday"? And if she left her husband, could you take what you want at the expense of someone else? If children are involved, are you prepared to be a stepfather?

Most men, married and single, have been attracted to unavailable women! You men may not have a choice in the way your body responds to someone else--it can be involuntary, but your sexual behavior is a choice. Some women will simply use men for their temporary pleasure. Do you want to be a toy that is thrown away when the woman outgrows the need for you? (I have the feeling that lots of "amens" were just uttered.) Just remember that the choices you make have consequences--good and bad. If you continue to see this woman, understand that it will probably be temporary--be prepared to gain nothing except heartache and a loss of self-worth. Time is precious and, once spent, cannot be refunded. Don't waste it on the wrong person! In the meantime, there are many lonely, lovely single Christian gals waiting to meet you--if only you were free.

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